My Journey through Miscarriage: FAQ's and statements asked to Me

Here is a list I have complied over the last 2 weeks of this journey. This is not to make anyone feel bad at all. This is to inform you on what is going on through a mothers mind that just miscarried that baby she really wanted.

• Are you okay? Do you need anything?
• Most of the time I am okay and do not need anything.
• Most of the time I just need you to check in and ask the question.

• When will you start trying for another baby?
• We are not sure. I just lost my baby to miscarriage. I do not know when I want to have another baby. I think about going through this pain and loss again and even think about not having another baby. We have Remington and he is perfect right now. It is okay to ask this question but please do not pry.
• In the past I would even ask this question, not now. I know how much it pains a parent that just lost their baby to even answer or think about that question.
• How did it feel?
• It hurt while taking the medication. Really badly. I have felt fine after the D and C.
• Do you know why you miscarried?
• No. I know 1 in 4 pregnancy's end in miscarriage. Dr. Hardman thinks it may have to do with something chromosomal and I would have miscarried the baby later but happy that it was sooner.
• At least you miscarried at 6 weeks and not further.
• This is something I have even told people but I do not believe it. I miscarried my baby and that's not okay. Not at 6 weeks not at 6 months. I wished and prayed that it never happened.
• This is something I do not like to hear.
• Be thankful for that you have Remington. 
• No shit! I am so very thankful that I already have a healthy son that I love dearly. I am thankful for him every single day. Why would I not be? I want another baby and that chance slipped away from me. Yeah we can possibly have another but what if we can't? This is something I have wanted for a long time and its gone.
• At least you know you can get pregnant.
• I have the upmost respect for my friends and people I know that are going through IVF right now. I know how much they want a baby and they DESERVE a family. Yes I know I am capable of getting pregnant but what about those moms that can't? What do you have to say about them? Keep them in mind to.
• And the most annoying thing someone could say or ask me?
• Did they check your levels? Is it because you had your Mirena taken out too soon? Why didn't this find it sooner? Why didn't you have any symptoms the 3 weeks the baby wasn't alive? Why this why that why why why!?!?!?!?!?
• My answer, I DON'T KNOW. ALL I KNOW IS THAT MY BABY IS DEAD AND THERE IS NOT A RIGHT OR A WRONG ANSWER AT THIS POINT!! Remember what I said about prying? This applies here too!
• Last but not least, if you feel like you have said something and I make a face, I'm sorry. It is just not something I wanted to hear. If you feel like you have said something and later felt offence to it and don't know what to say? A simple sorry will do.

Traivs and I are taking this time to heal. We have lost a child that will forever ben in our hearts. Please pray for us as we grieve and move through this process. Thank you for trying to understand. Know that we are taking everyday as a blessing and we know that each day is a gift that is only guaranteed today.


xoxo,